Reality from reality
Every day we are faced with multitudes of external experiences
which deluge our senses.
How do we manage to deal with and focus on those which are
important and those which are not. This article looks to explain
how we manage this feat using filters to focus on the essentials
and ignore those events which are not essential to us.
As previously covered all life events are external experiences
which we process, categorise and store in our mind. As that
process takes place we add context to the experience based
on what it means to us. If the event is of importance we
may attach an emotional context to the experience.
If the event is something of a trivial inconvenience.
It will receive less context. In this way we build up our
library of experience, and commit a level of importance to
Some of these events become beliefs and truths, some
become conditions by which we make judgments, whilst the
majority are used to as reference points to make decisions
as we move through daily life. This library is in essence our
entire lifetime of experience and learning.
It forms our personal reality.
Our brain has been proven to be limited in the amount of data
it can process at any one time. In order for it to deal with the
incredible amount of data passing through it each day. It
resorts to a series of filters to control the data flow.
Deletions: The first of these is a bit like the rubbish bin on a computer.
The mind simply deletes the data completely. No attempt is
made to process the data after it has passed beyond that moment
Examples of this may be driving, we have an extreme focus on
what is going on at that moment in time. What went before it
no longer has any relevance and is therefore forgotten. Try to
recall every thing from your last driving experience. Chances
are only things which took on some form of relevance will be
Distortions: Here the input is referenced and compared to our
existing knowledge base, however it is altered in such a way as
to fit in with our concept of what it should mean.
Distortion allows us to create, manipulate, and mould the sensory
data into a unique set of ideals.
Which fit into to our own personal model of the world. Is it one
of the main reasons why different people looking at the same
thing, can hold different perspectives on it. We see the same thing,
yet we interpret what we see in different ways
Generalisations: Here the sensory data is once again compared
to our knowledge base. We then make an evaluation of the
data and categorise the experience under a specific label.
That label is accepted as a fact in our sense of reality.
We do this in an effort to simplify the task of categorising
experience, which helps to us make quick decisions in the future.
Without the ability to generalize, it would become extremely hard t
o make decisions based on facts as we see them.
When taken to the extreme they can be the underlying cause of
for some our most serious behaviour and attitude issues.
These then are the main filters used to control the flow of sensory
data through our minds every second of every day. Without
them we would be overwhelmed with sensory data and be
unable to function as we do.
Hope this article proved interesting
All the best
Order from Chaos
As previously stated we live daily life in the now,
we do however have in place a system which allows
to look forward and view the possibilities.
In this article we’ll be looking to understand how
we receive the information provided by our outside
How we process, interpret and colour that information internally.
How the results of that process, will be
reflected in the way we manage our states and
relationships in daily life. All experience is captured
through our five senses, the way we interpret and
encode it will work, on the following principles.
Anything that happens to us which is outside of
our being is considered to be a life event.
It is the raw experience, without any element of meaning.
As the event is processed, we begin to add meaning and interpretation.
These meanings and interpretations will be matched
against the catalogue of our past experience.
New experience compared to old experience,
which when matched, becomes an updated version
of the old experience.
As the process of assimilation takes place, we add
labels to the experience in identify and categorise it.
Moving further emotion is added to the experience,
this further reinforces the the identification of our
associations with the experience. These are the way
we feel about the event.
In adding emotions to the mix, there will a reaction to
those emotions. These can be mental or physical
conditions generated in response to the emotions felt.
In the aftermath of the emotional reaction, the event has
been fully processed and understood.
The outcome or result produced will be the way in which
we choose to react to it.
Lets use a practical example to clarify this further.
The life event is lets say a compliment received for a
service you have provided, or something you have done
well. The sequence runs as follows.
Received compliment: The label or meaning applied could
be one of satisfaction and elevated self esteem at having
the quality recognised and appreciated by others.
The Emotions, generated by this could be feelings of
happiness and increased self worth.
The Reaction, may be a more positive outlook towards
those who issued the compliment.
The Outcomes, could manifest themselves in greater
effort and motivation to do things in a more focused
The example may seem a little trivial or small,
but it simply shows, that a life event is literally
anything that happens in our external world.
We process the events in this manner.
In the next section of this article we’ll be looking at how
we use our minds to process the raw data we receive
from our senses.
Hope you enjoyed this article
All the best
Current and preferred states
These are two identifiable conditions which all of us as
human beings experience everyday of our lives.
These contribute to the way we look at, and live life.
The choices we make and how we follow through on them.
Our reactions and results will be measured by the
responses we take on those outcomes.
We all want to improve the quality of life, to achieve those
goals we set. To obtain the things we want. This is a fantastic,
ideal, but it requires work, and lots of it.
We have these two contending sets of ideals. Which can and
do cause internal conflict. This turmoil can distract our minds
to a massive degree. The confusion which results causes constant
shifts in focus as we struggle to steer a path through life.
This leaves two ways in which we deal with life.
Taking direct and positive control over life to create our desired
outcomes. To get what we want. Alternatively, accepting an
unresponsive and passive form of reality. Where the results
we achieve are a reaction to the experiences we have in life.
To be more simplistic, we take what we want from what life
gives us, or we choose to accept what life throws at us.
We live in what is called a state of Current reality.
This is simply where we are now in life.
Our life, work and social circumstances as they are Now.
This is our life experiences, how we define ourselves,
day to day relationships. Our beliefs and how fulfilled
we are as people.
The vast majority of us inhabit our current reality state dealing
with the experiences that life generates for us. This means we stay
at this level of existence, whilst a preferred state vision may exist.
It never gets fully explored or achieved quite simply due to the
pressures of life.
The second state has a powerful draw which pulls our minds
and stretches our imaginations. This is called the Preferred Reality.
It is basically an ideal future state where we would like to be.
It is here where we look to learn and grow, to see who can we
become. What can be achieved, it’s where our visions and goals
reside. Those that do move forward, have made a decision to
take control by deciding what they want from life.
Creating a plan, taking action steps to achieve that plan.
Whilst constructively dealing with the life experiences they
receive along the way. This requires self discipline and effort
to drive the move forwards. For some this is an easy process,
for others it may require an in depth self analysis.
Combined with a desire to make changes, and the drive to
take focused action.
You are simply taking responsibility for getting the things you want
out of life. Not blindly accepting what life thinks you want
It is not an easy thing to accomplish, for most we don’t like change.
Unfortunately change is a constant factor in life. For most of us
buried in the daily world we fail to notice it’s subtle nuances
until something radical hits us and we are forced to adapt to new circumstances.
That is reactive behaviour.
Those that choose to work at and achieve things they want in life
are actively seeking change. It becomes a requirement by which
they measure life. Thus they embrace it, and accept the responsibility
they take in following this way of living. It is creative behaviour.
It requires developing a certain kind of mindset, some
characteristics of which are listed below
Maturity: Stop making excuses for not doing something.
Instead start taking concerted action steps toward
achieving your goals.
Decisiveness: Life is constantly moving and changing. You decide
where you want it to go next.
Consistency: Taking actions which move you forward in a concise
and focussed manner.
Certainty: The depth of self belief that drives you forward towards
achieving the things you want. Not those provided for you.
As can be seen, we live in the now, how we choose to look at life
and the actions we take. Will define what we as
individuals achieve with our lives.
In the next article I’ll look at how we start to make sense
of the information gathered from our senses.
Hope you enjoyed this article
All the best
Procrastination: is cited as the main cause for people
failing to move forward in their lives. It keeps us stuck
in meaningless drudgery, lack of hope and can incapacitate
our minds.That is one hell of a powerful statement which
unfortunately holds true for many people across the globe.
So basically what is it.
It is the selective decision to focus on an activity which we
enjoy, as opposed to doing something which we don’t want to do.
Basically an avoidance tactic whereby we replace an undesired
task, with a different one. We then use the second task as an
excuse to justify not doing the first.
However, putting off important tasks can lead to very serious
stress issues arising at a later time.
For the purpose of this small article we will be looking at how to
recognise procrastination. Some of the symptoms associated
with it. Some exercises on how to break state when in it and finally
some avoidance tactics to help overcome it.
How to recognise procrastination.
We’ll run four scenarios at you and see if you can recognise where
the procrastination comes into play. A brief explanation follows each.
Here you have a schedule which requires you to accomplish a series
of tasks. For some reason you feel extreme anxiety at having to do
the work. So much so that you start to put these tasks to the back
of your work list. You also begin to do anything else that takes your
mind from these tasks. In so doing your sense of anxiety builds up.
Reaching to the point where making any decision to do the tasks
becomes an issue.
What your seeing is a situation where the perceived pressure of the
tasks, produces a stress reaction. This invokes a delay strategy,
which in essence overwhelms the mind to the point where any form
of action becomes almost impossible to take.
In this case we have a task which needs to be done, yet it is
inconvenient as you are doing other things more interesting.
Consequently the task gets buried under a blanket of distractions.
Where it lies either completely forgotten or it re-emerges as a
major issue which needs to be dealt with urgently.
In this situation we are seeing an avoidance strategy, where the
importance of what we are doing now. No matter how trivial the act.
Takes priority over doing the important task.
Here the task has a specific time by which it needs to be done.
But it can wait as there is no rush, so like the previous example
it gets buried under distraction and forgotten. Only this is the one
which re-emerges to bite us hard.
There also the similar situation, which is the goal or task we have
in mind to accomplish. We approach it with all the good intent in
the world. But for whatever reason we never get around to doing it.
We keep putting it off and it finally gets buried.
Here there is a time factor element that creates a false sense
As such the task gets completed but under serious duress,
or it never gets finished and in many cases never gets started.
Here the task has been worked on and in many cases finished.
However the result is never good enough for individual working
on it. So they keep working until satisfied that it meets their
requirements before being considered as done.
Failing to meet those requirements, can induce serious stress
reactions for these types of individuals.
Having high expectations and constantly criticizing your work.
Can actually lead to you never getting anything finished.
There are many things which trigger procrastination. Unfortunately,
some forms of procrastination can be so ingrained that serious
issues can be present, which inhibit the individuals ability to
change. So professional guidance may be needed. The majority
simply involve changing the way we choose to think about the
The following list shows a few reasons why we procrastinate
See if any of the above can be applied to those examples.
Now we recognise and know what procrastination actually. We
can take control of it.
At it’s absolute basic procrastination is simply choices we make.
Choices which can be changed when required.
Now The following techniques show we can break the patterns
which control our tendencies to procrastinate.
In the majority of cases the answer to avoiding procrastination.
Is to simply take action.
The following series of steps is a good place to begin.
Define the task: Look at the task to understand
what needs doing.
Break the task down: Create small segments.
Create an order of Importance: Prioritise each segment.
Set up a timetable: Create a schedule for each segment.
Choose the environment: Set up a location where the
work is to be done.
Select the timespan: Choose the times where you
can do the work.
Reward Yourself: Treat yourself when the job is done.
Looking at our problems in this way dilutes many of the stress
related issues brought about by problem avoidance. In analysing
the problem we give ourselves options on how to deal with it.
The intent is now there to get the task done.
What do these tasks accomplish: by defining the task we are looking
to see what needs to be done. This opens up an understanding of
the task and takes away some of the issues/fears associated with it.
This examination should also reveal any component pieces in the task.
Various aspects which need to be done before the task is complete.
Assign each component a priority of importance.
This defines the order in which each component is done.
Organise a time frame that each part can be done in.
As an example component one will take 15 minutes to complete,
whilst component 2 may take 10 minutes etc.
Choose the workspace where you can get the work done, where
you are comfortable and will receive no interruptions.
Select the times when you want to actually do the work. If you have
a spare half hour do components one and two. Then do the rest
when you can. This way you spread the work over a time period
of your choosing.
Finally when the work has been done and the task completed.
Give yourself a treat for having got the job done. This kind of
approach can produce some seriously positive results. The more
you do the stronger you become.
PURRRR: This is an acronym for a pattern which
works as in a very similar way.
When you have a pressing task that is causing a stress reaction
and are having difficulty in facing it PAUSE
Stop your desire to procrastinate by refusing to act on the URGES.
Think about what you feel tempted to do to avoid the issue.
Slow down, maybe even write it down. REFLECT
It is not unusual for us to have an internal argument
about the course of action to take Use this self talk
to evaluate your options. REASON
Once the results of your self talk have been thoroughly thought
through. Create an action plan on how your going to move
The best laid plans can occasionally falter, in the event
of this occurrence we may need to revisit our
plan and reassess it. REVISION
These are support frameworks you can build up to help with
identifying issues where procrastination takes place.
However there may be times when you find yourself in moments
of procrastination. The following ideas offer a quick and immediate
The 5 minute plan. This is a simple strategy where you simply try
an activity for five minutes only before moving on to another activity.
What tends to happen is once we focus on one task. It expands to
fill our thoughts and actions. Till we either complete it, or get a
sizeable portion of it done.
The second is the DO IT NOW approach. This is simply
being sufficiently self aware and deciding in
the moment to take action to deal with the issue.
In these ways you create an environment which supports you to
make objective decisions, the motivation to get the work done.
Finally the action attitude to get started on the task which needs doing.
Hope this little article is helpful
All the best
When your looking to achieving anything of worth, we tend to
see either the end result or the big picture. These are great as
an initial motivator to either start something, or for keeping us
pursuing it. However what is often lacking is an understanding
of what will need to be done to get there.
In this brief answer I detail the steps I go through when planning,
creating and setting up a project.
Mind hack 1: Decide exactly what is is you want to do.
Then break the task down into smaller steps. These steps help
define the journey and create the milestones you can use to
measure your progress towards achieving your goal.
Mind hack 2: When each stage has been reached allow yourself
time to enjoy that moment. Congratulate yourself for getting to that
spot. This kind of behaviour conditions the subconscious mind to
associate pleasure in achieving.
Mind hack 3: Do one thing at a time, and focus on that until you
complete that task. This instills the sense of self discipline and
tenacity needed to move forward.
Mind hack 4: Be prepared to adapt your strategy, it may be
necessary to change something or deviate the route your taking
in order to achieve the goal.
This gives us the ability to both analyse the goal and create
solutions to obstacles that may get in the way of us moving forward.
Mind hack 5: Use every form of motivation tool, be they
motivational quotes, visualisation, NLP techniques, mantras,
self hypnosis, meditation etc.
This is your journey. Something you want to bring about in your life.
Give yourself every possible chance to make it happen.
I frequently use this quote as a guide.
Think Big, but don’t forget Small
For through Small, you become Big.
The following link will bring you to an article I wrote about the process I
went through in writing and publishing my first book.
Thank you for reading, all the best with whatever you may be doing.
Enjoy the journey.
All the best
What follows here, is the process as it worked for me.
a goal I had always wanted to achieve.
The goal in question, is one that many aspire to. Write a book
and get it published.
Having no idea how to get this done I started by asking myself
lots of questions to clarify the benefits and possible effects that
may occur in the pursuit of this goal, and found none that would
create any issues.
The next point to decide, was what kind of book
The options that came up were things like
Fact or Fiction
Story or Novel
Long or short
Tutorial or Guide
The subject matter was vast, but it was narrowed down to
Whilst going though this procedure, the idea started to take on
it's own identity. The project eventually became something short,
on a specialized subject which I have a familiarity with.
The result was a short format layout with the subject being music.
With this point established, the next part of the procedure was to
drill down further with more questions about the subject matter.
What areas of music.
The other things which emerged from this particular interrogation
was about the book format.
Text and Illustrations
What resulted was an illustrated/text exercise and teaching guide
on the caged system for guitar.
As can be seen, the goal has been thoroughly examined and broken
down from a vague idea, to a working concept. But there was much
more work to be done. The next step was to start the research,
getting the content that was relevant. Along with a way to present it.
The subject matter was relatively easy to assemble, as it was
something I had worked with on a regular basis. The fun part would
be imparting my own interpretation of the subject matter.
As the project developed, the more ideas seemed to flow. With the
concept fully mapped, the process of bringing it into being commenced.
As it began to take a physical form, the flow of ideas and options
increased. Things such as form, layout and presentation. the project
began to almost generate it's own momentum.
The entire process was worked in two stages
This initially was writing the text sequences, I used several font
styles before finding one that worked for me. Once this was down,
the challenge was in generating the graphics to support it. I used
several ideas and colour schemes, before deciding on the grey black
Here the design work for the page layouts took place. The goal was
to get the graphics aligned with the text in a manner which made the
book easy to follow. There were many experiments in design and
layout before the final mix of graphics and text were married up
into the draft manuscript.
Once the draft was ready, it was time to leave the project for a while.
The idea being to return and review it with a clear mind. This has to
be done in a subjective manner. Once the material had passed scrutiny,
it was time to design the cover artwork. This was relatively simple as
ideas had already come to mind whilst working on the internal
graphics. Once again, this was tweaked and amended until I was
satisfied with the final result.
The next stage was publishing.
There were three options available, all of which had pros and cons.
My criteria for achieving publication was simple. Finance was at a
premium, and the main consideration was to get the book published.
Option One: Publishing House.
As it transpired this was not even an option for me. It involves sending
a copy of the manuscript to the agent for assessment. Then having to
wait for either an acceptance or rejection notice. If the thing was
rejected, then it would have to be sent elsewhere to go through the
entire process again. This would cost time and money, and as stated
my criteria was publication at minimal cost.
Option Two: Printing company.
Here you take your manuscript to a printers and pay for x number of
copies. Which you then sell via an outlet of your choosing.
Once again this involved considerable expenditure and well outside
of my criteria.
Option Three: Online Publishing
Here the resources of an online publishing site are used. The manuscript
is sent electronically. The site produces a proof copy, which you simply check. If it's acceptable. You publish.
The pros are simple, it's easy to use, and has free publishing and
marketing. No storage of hard copies as these are printed and sent
by the publishing site. Authors get a reduced price on hard copy
Cons: You get paid a small royalty on units sold.
This for me fulfilled the criteria perfectly, and was the option chosen.
That then is how the process worked for me, in making that particular
goal come into being, and I hope it provides some insight into how you
can make your own goals a reality.
That simple fact is, that any process leads to a result. However, is it the desired result. Using the example above, this is something which was applied throughout the project. It is simply a case, of continually
assessing the project to make sure the results achieved are in line
with the project criteria.
If not, the process is amended until the results do match the project
criteria. This is a kind of quality control for your goal.
It worked as follows, the concept for the book was a small text and
graphics exercise book. When creating the content, this was used as the guiding principle. So text and graphics were kept simple and direct.
Content which deviated from the concept was either dropped completely,
or adapted to fit. This way the concept requirement was met in full.
This aspect of the monitoring process allows for changes to be made
inline with the concept. Things happen where the results are not as expected or desired.
Therefore changes may have to be made in order to get the right results.
As an example the original graphic designs were coloured.
This had to change when it was found that the cost of printing the hard copy,would be twice as much as it would be in black and white.
Which would have to be reflected in the retail price of the book.
Making the book at least in my mind far to expensive for what it was.
Therefore the graphics were changed to a black white and grey format
to work better with a black and white layout.
Although this meant a massive amount of work in making the changes,
it illustrates perfectly how outside circumstances can have a bearing on your goal. Flexibility in approach, and monitoring the process, allows
issues to be seen early. It frequently enhances the process by throwing
up ideas which help with solutions to those issues.
At the end of all this, was my desired outcome. I published my book.
Which at this current time is my best selling product.
May I wish you well in your writing efforts and hope this little
article provides some guidance and inspiration on your journey
All the best
Strange title for an article, but when ever we set up a series
of targets or goals this is exactly what is being undertaken.
This is basically a four step model which looks at taking
a more esoteric approach to the goal making procedure.
The process works in the following manner.
Step one: Define your goals,
With all goal making procedures. The goals must have
certain qualities which will make them more
They must be clearly defined, stated in positive way.
They must be realistic, and have a compelling reason
to drive them. They must be specific, to create intent.
As an example The goal I want to start my own business,
to be my own boss and take control over my time and
finances. Whilst this is a worthy example.
It is just a random series of statements with
very little substance or direction.
Lets reconstruct this so the picture has a greater
colour and depth. We do this by asking questions
So to be specific, what type of business is it going to be.
Is it something that falls within our current skill set.
Are the resources needed currently available to get it
started. If not are they easily obtainable.
Where will I be doing this business and with whom.
What time frame do I want this business to be operating
within. How do I fund the startup.
These are only some of the questions which will need to
be clarified before moving forward.
Once a clear picture has been established, then there must
be a compelling reason to move along the road and to stay
on it. This is totally unique to each person, but for this
example we will use the take control over my life by
working for myself.
We use this vision of our new life as the guiding light along
the journey towards our given goals.
How do we create such a vision and make it compelling
enough to drive us on. Look in your mind and find those
They could be anything from achieving financial
freedom, spend more quality time with family.
Working the hours you want.
The ability to travel more frequently.
No more 9 to 5 drudgery the list goes on.
However you decide, these motives are the ones you
choose to focus on to drive you forward towards achieving
So we’ve defined the goal, found the compelling
reasons to do it.
We need now to define the how it will be done, so we start
to create a route of the journey that must be taken
to make the goal a reality.
We do this by examining the answers to our
questions and decide on the following options.
A: Yes I can and will start a new business
B: The business is going to be an online marketing model
C: There are existing skill sets that can be used as a basis
on which to create this business.
D: Any new skills which may be required can be learned
and used as and when needed.
E: Funding can be found from existing resources whilst
the build up is under development. Further funding can
be applied for if needed at a later time.
F: The time frame for this to happen will be over a two
year period with certain tasks being completed at
different times over that period.
As can be seen with this idea we have moved from what
was a vague wish to a more detailed and mapped out alternative.
Offering a more realistic foundation on which
to create our new future.
Now we move onto the more esoteric side of the process.
Step two: Create an affirmation for each stage of the process.
Pardon? yep my thoughts exactly when I first encountered
the concept. But bear with me it becomes quite
clear as we progress.
Firstly what is an affirmation, well it simply a short
statement which is used to focus the mind on a specific
goal with an aim to achieve that goal.
It basically programs the subconscious to work on
the things we actually want. Not what it thinks we want.
I can recall in much earlier life standing in front of the
mirror and repeatedly saying to my reflection.
I am getting better everyday. After having my sister
see me doing it and the recollection of the giggling fit afterwards.
That memory kind of tarnished my use of affirmation
as a motivational tool for a very long while.
However it is used by people across all generations,
across the globe. So let’s look at it more closely.
Once again for an affirmation to work properly.
It needs to be subject specific, stated in a positive
manner and have emotional content. So how do we word
Using the answers from our earlier questions.
The affirmations could run along these lines.
I CHOOSE to set up and run an online marketing business
by this date in 2 years time. Starting NOW.
I HAVE ALL the necessary skills and resources to
accomplish this NOW.
I SHALL overcome all the problems that face me on
the way WITH EASE.
I INTEND to BENEFIT and LEARN from the discoveries
I make ALONG MY JOURNEY.
I WILL provide a new standard of life for MYSELF
and THOSE THAT MATTER to me.
As can be seen from these examples, they are
subject specific. Stated in the positive and have
The words in capitals are the hooks which
provide the emotional and positive influences.
The start of each sentence is a positive statement
of intent which creates belief and purpose.
The other statements are either calls to action or benefits
that will accomplished along the way, or at the end of the journey.
This then is how we create the tools to program our
subconscious minds to work on what we want it to.
Step three: Apply the programming.
There are many ideas and schemes on how to make
this work, from meditation to hypnosis. Trance states
The simple fact is it’s all of these. During the course of
our daily lives we all have moments of what is called in
NLP downtime. Simply moments where we go into
ourselves and close down. It is the minds way of taking
some time out to refresh itself, literally a moment of trance.
Affirmations can be stated at any time of the day,
whenever you have a quiet moment.
For many it is a ritual done in the early hours of the
morning or last thing at night.
In my personal practice it has not been unknown to
happen during physical activity.
What is important is to emphasise the elements
of each statement which provide the benefits
you want to achieve.
In so doing the subconscious mind will pick up
on that and focus specifically on delivering it’s solutions.
Based on those nuances.
Step four: Monitor your progress
You are asking the subconscious to mind to provide
answers and directions that guide you towards your goals.
You must be physically aware of the progress you are making.
If things are going well, maintain the methods you are using.
If they are not. It may be necessary to install a new set
This then is a simple four stage model of how we make
what we desire become the prime motivating focus of
the our subconscious mind.
Where it will provide solutions which both drive and
steer us towards fulfilling our goals, and manifesting
our hopes and dreams.
We hope you enjoyed this article.
The following links offer additional reading and insight
into NLP and some of it's uses.
NLP Kickstart Change
For parts one and two of this article see below
NLP My personal Interpretation
NLP Making Changes
here to edit.
NLP Making Changes
This is the second article based on my interpretation of NLP
To follow on from that first article I’m going to look at two ways
changes can be made using NLP.
However before anything can be made to happen.
If someone is not fully committed to making changes.
Then it wont happen. The reasons behind any change
have to hold a conviction that drives the belief, that
making the change, will bring about tangible
improvements to life as it stands for that individual.
Prior to looking at change, I’m going to look at another
NLP presupposition which states that mind and body
are not separate from each other but complement
each other. For neither will work without the other.
Based on that principle NLP practitioners can create
changes for their clients. Simply by changing the way
they hold themselves physically.
Anyone can do it.
I cover this in much greater detail in my book.
Lets try this as an exercise, imagine or recall a morning
where you had to get up early to get into work.
For whatever reason the thought of doing this was not
a good one.
Try to recreate this experience and go into it deeply.
Be there for a moment.
When you know your in it, just examine the way you feel,
but more so look at your posture.
How does it feel, more often than not, the head is bowed,
shoulders are pulled forward.
The Torso is slumped and breathing is shallow due to
compression on the chest.
As another option, try physically sitting like this for a
while and see where your thoughts start going.
Usually not the best of ways to start a day.
Now come out of where you are and try this out. Imagine
you are some where that resonates
of a much enjoyed experience.
It can be out walking by a river.
On a warm holiday beach, in a woods enjoying the scenery etc.
Bring it to mind and dive into that experience. Recall everything
about it that you can. Try to actually be there.
Now notice how different your posture is now.
Are you feeling more relaxed, even energised.
Are you breathing deeply because your shoulders are
held back. Head is held evenly by the neck muscles.
Chest is out and you are walking tall.
Once again experiment with this a bit, try putting yourself
into this position and see where your thoughts go.
See how it feels.
If done properly, what you experience is the synergy
between mind and body. What this shows is the the mind
does have an effect on the body and vice versa.
Using techniques like this one we can make personal change.
Great little technique, however the changes tend to be
short term. But with constant practice those changes
will become more long term as we instinctively learn
to manage our sense of self awareness.
To recognise when we move into those states and choose
to do something to change them.
Deep level change is more of a challenge, especially for
those who working on themselves.
Being objective in our thinking is not always easy.
So what follows is an example of how we effect
deep level changes.
This requires a level of understanding of the issue at hand.
So working with a scenario that goes along these lines.
We have an issue of confidence which manifests itself when
we are placed under certain conditions.
Such things could be public speaking, general
conversation, maybe work based communications.
In general somewhere outside of normal
communications where there is a fear of putting
To understand how and why this fear is generated
we have to ask lots of questions.
Either of ourselves or of our clients.
Were not interested in what initially caused the fear.
We want to know what triggers the fear, and how that
fear is represented in our subconscious mind.
Once those have been established, we can look to
make changes to the trigger mechanism and the representation.
Which in turn will change how we react
to anything that stimulates the fear.
So as a practical example, lets say we get nervous
when asked to speak in say an office meeting.
There may be no tangible reason for it but when he office
meeting comes around. It gets worse.
Physical symptoms can be nausea, butterflies
even to a crippling mental state bordering on panic.
What sets it off, the trigger could be anything so we’ll say
it’s the thought of having to stand up in front of others.
Being very self conscious of making yourself look
silly or making a mistake.
Been there myself and done it many times.
So we need to find the representation.
This could simply be a picture in the mind.
More likely the representation will be made up of visual,
audio and physical components. In other words you can
see, hear and feel yourself doing it.
To find this out we simply go into the experience
and play it through.
Without using too much jargon.
We recreate the experience to analyse the experience.
Once we understand the component parts of the experience.
We have a model to work with, which we can now manipulate.
Which basically means, we can change
any of the component parts.
In so doing, we can change the effect that the experience
now holds over us.
So to further clarify, lets assume that the representation is a
visual one. A picture of people laughing at you
for making a mistake.
So how will changing this, effect how the experience works.
We try to shift the framework to a more supportive and
Rather than having people laughing at a mistake,
we install a different picture, they are giving you a round
of applause and approval for an excellent speech.
Rather than being nervous timid and quiet
we create the image of you being positive, animated
and fully focused on your delivery in the moment.
Rather than sounding dull and boring,
we create a soundtrack of a vibrant and highly articulate
person delivering a clear and concise message.
Rather than standing still holding the notes in front of
your face, we create the motions of an energetic person
who has belief in what they are trying to convey.
As can be seen, changing how we view the representation,
can change the effect is has upon us.
Giving us options on how we choose to react
to the original fear.
This is the basis on which most change work is undertaken.
As such, offers an insight into how NLP can be used as an
aid to create better options in life for ourselves and others.
We hope this article has aided your understanding of NLP
For further reading the following series of links
offers additional insight into making changes using NLP.
This my own personal book and shows some of the ways
I have used NLP to make some change work for me.
NLP Kickstart Change
The following blog post is an excellent article on
short term decision making using Future Pacing.
Making decisions Short Term
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There are as many interpretations of what NLP is, as
there are people who practice it.
In this article I attempt not so much to explain my ideas about what it is.
But to open a window on how it works. NLP is in it’s own right a body of
knowledge, practices and techniques, used to discover how we as people.
Interact with both ourselves, other people and the world around us.
One of the fundamental facts about human beings is we are all different.
This may seem to be a very generalized statement. However it is true, let
Technically we are all the same, we come equipped with the same basic
physical layout. The same mental capabilities, yet we all look different, we all
sound different and we all experience our world in very individual ways.
Now obviously the way we look and sound is down to the genes
we inherit from our parents. How we interpret the world though is very much
down to how we process our experiences of that world.
This is also the point at which our belief systems are formulated. As part of the
basic package we are equipped to experience our world through our senses.
These are those of Sight, Sound, Touch, Taste and Smell.
So how do we process experience, and by this I mean anything we experience
during daily life. Be it interacting with people, doing physical tasks,
eating food, sleeping. Etc.
It works something like this, experience is encoded into a series of sensual sequences
which are passed through a series of filters. Then stored in the sub conscious mind.
So what is a sensual sequence, good question.
We experience events through the way we see them, hear them, how they felt.
How they taste or smell. Those events are then encoded into our subconscious mind
according to how we relate to that experience.
As an example, a sunrise could be a very visual event for some and may produce a
visual representation when recalled to mind. For others it might be the experience of
being outside and feeling the changes wrought as the sun rises bringing warmth and
light. For others the moment may be recalled through hearing the sound of the early
morning birdsong heralding the coming of the new day.
Others may see it as time for breakfast. Etc.
For many the same scenario can bring forth a combination of all these things.
Try this as an exercise.
Imagine being outside in the early morning, watching the sun come over the horizon,
experience the sense of wonder this can bring, the sense of excitement. Feeling the
changes in the ambient temperature as it rises, Feeling the gentle breeze or maybe
the stronger wind. Hearing the sounds of the early morning. Seeing the light as it
changes in quality and contrast. Take in this moment and enjoy it.
What we have just done is create an experience, based either on an actual reality,
or a perceived idea of what the experience might feel like.
This is how we encode our experience of life. We attach a sensory meaning to
that experience which is stored in the subconscious mind.
Filters and short term memory
Ok great so far, but what is a filter and how does it work. Everyday, our world provides
us with so much sensual imagery, that we would become overwhelmed by it all and
more or less stop functioning as rational human beings. So as part of the package
we are equipped with something called the brain.
Now this is basically the controlling mechanism which overseas everything we do.
It is an incredible device which we take very much for granted.
The brain actually works on two levels, the Conscious and the Subconscious.
The Conscious mind is better known as the logical mind. It deals with satisfying
our basic needs and providing an immediate response mechanism to deal with the
daily requirements of life. Be they physical or mental. The subconscious mind is the
control mechanism. It looks after all functions of the body. It is also the storage location
for everything we experience as we pass through life.
The Conscious or logical mind is programmed to provide us with immediate reactions
and delivers it’s solutions to us based on data specific parameters.
This simply means it responds directly to situations as they occur.
We make decisions based on what is happening around us at any given moment
in time. The advantage of this is obvious. We react quicker without having to give a
situation too much thought. Very useful in more prehistoric times when threatened
with danger or needing to find shelter and food. Also very useful in modern times.
There is one slight dis-advantage, accessing data for quick decisions means that having
too much data can slow the delivery down considerably, or even overwhelm it completely.
So our logical mind processes data through the senses, but filters out most of what it
It essentially deletes or removes what it interprets as being unnecessary to the
decision making process. What this basically means is it can only process a limited
amount of data at any one moment.
As an example, try this as an exercise. Take a moment to reflect on a journey you have
recently made, be it a walk, a drive or as the passenger in a vehicle of some sort.
Try and recall everything about it at the conscious level. Chances are you’ll recall
starting and arriving, but not so much detail of the journey itself.
Unless something specific or unusual caused you to make more associations during
the course of the journey.
This is an example of the filtering that takes place in the logical or conscious mind.
It is generally referred to as short term memory.
Subconscious or Long term memory and belief
The subconscious mind is the recipient of all the unfiltered experience amassed as we
pass through life. It is said, that if something has happened no matter how trivial,
it will be stored somewhere in the subconscious part of the mind.
The subconscious part of our being is where we everything about us is organized, stored
and categorized. To be basic, it’s our own virtual filing system.
The subconscious mind is always working and it’s main focus is to keep us safe and
to bring us all the things we want in life.
Now it gets that direction from how we communicate with it through our logical mind.
Basically, when we make a request for something, the subconscious mind looks
for ways this can be delivered. The amazing fact is, we will receive it.
Whatever the it actually is.
Many people have said to me, “ yeah that’s ok,
but I’ve asked for something but never got it”.
Very true, but what you receive depends on how the subconscious mind is instructed.
It always delivers an answer. These answers are often ambiguous. But more frequently,
they are ignored. Most of our time is spent inhabiting the world of our logical mind,
where the noises of everyday life drown out or submerge the messages given
by the subconscious mind.
It will therefore give us what we want, based on the information it receives from us.
The presupposition, we always get what we ask for is based on this fact alone.
How NLP works.
Now we have looked at the way we interpret experience, how we
encode and store it and the methods we use to do this.
The question is how does NLP work.
NLP techniques are designed to look at the deep memory levels. What we look to
achieve when making change is to understand the process by which the experience
occurred and to understand the filters used to represent that experience as it was
constructed and stored into deep memory.
In this way the experience can be recreated in the mind, and the separate component
parts which make up the experience can be analysed to assess it.
Ok! what does that mean.
Lets take an example. We’ll assume that an experience that was once useful has now
become more of an encumbrance in later life. Yet it still holds an influence over us
which is stopping us from moving forward.
Most NLP techniques use a similar framework which follows this basic pattern.
We investigate the experience, find out what it does, how it is encoded by the mind and
what purpose it serves to us. Once this is known, we can begin to change the
representation. In so doing the power it has can be muted or the experience
So as example, we have a belief we cannot do something.
That belief is based on an experience we have of not being able to do
(the something). As an NLP practitioner we would begin by asking questions about
that belief. The idea is to dig down to understand the underlying reasons for why
this belief is in place and to isolate the component parts of the experience.
Once we have gathered all that information we can
begin to look at each aspect of the experience and make changes
to the way the experience is encoded.
Once this is done, the interpretation of the experience in our minds is changed.
Therefore the way we feel about it, and the beliefs
associated with it no longer have the relevance or power it once
held over us. Thus creating an alternative and more empowering representation of
the experience in our subconscious mind.
That is the way we use NLP in both professional and personal stances to make
change that helps us to move through life with a more positive outlook.
In the next article I will give a practical example
of how the process works.
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The silk weaving or eight brocades is a system of exercises.
derived from the ancient martial arts systems of China.
Practiced across the modern world, they have proved to be a very
effective form of holistic medicine.
Known both in modern and ancient times to provide relief
from pain and illnesses of various sorts,
Unlike modern forms of exercise, these are performed in a slow fluid manner.
Using slow relaxed rhythmic movement and deep breathing
as the focal point for the exercise.
The outcome is to develop and strengthen the internal chi energy
which once awakened. Strengthens the whole body.
The training routines in many martial arts systems include this goal
as one of the prime accomplishments for the their practitioners.
Alongside the ability to do damage also has to come the ability to heal
that damage. It was found these exercise systems could aid in that
As with martial arts, there are many systems which fall under different banners.
Many of the exercises appear across these systems with
different names. But the practice itself is collectively known as
Chi Kung or in Chinese Qi Jong.
The health benefits derived from these exercise routines are the subject
of many claims,but based on my own personal experience from many
years of practice. The effects can be quite apparent. However that is
for a more in depth article in the future.
The core of the system is deep breathing and slow movements.
Firstly the breathing.
In normal breathing we take in a certain amount of air.
But the lungs are seldom filled to capacity. We shallow breath.
When performing the exercises the breath is inhaled through the nose.
Using the abdominal muscles and diaphragm to control the inward flow.
Completely filling the lungs.
On the out breath, the flow is released through the mouth. With the tongue placed
behind the teeth. Whilst using the abdominal muscles and diaphragm
to control the exhalation and completely empty the lungs.
This when combined with the slow movement creates a highly therapeutic
effect on the entire body.
To follow will be a list of the exercises with a brief explanation
and a video link showing the exercise being performed.
These are as they were taught to me, and form part of my training regime.
1 Two hands push the sky
This practice is performed standing, the arms are raised above the head
in a pushing motion. The extension of the arms stretches wrists, fingers
and shoulders, also expanding the chest cavity.
When performed standing on tiptoes. The muscles of the legs receive
a satisfying stretch.
Breathing: is inhale when raising and clasping the hands.
Exhale on the upward extensions.
Inhale when bringing the hands down.
With hands at sides exhale to complete the cycle.
2 Riding horse, using bow to shoot eagle
This practice is performed in the horse stance.
The hands are extended horizontally in both directions on each
side of the body.
The hands mimic the holding of a bow in preparation to fire an arrow.
The arm extensions stretch the shoulder joints, and expand the chest.
Hand positions are unique to this practice.
The one holding the bow has the index finger extended
during the movement.
The hand drawing the string is held with the fingers
curled round the string.
Assume the horse position, legs wide apart, knees bent.
Hands in fists placed above the hips.
Breathing: Inhale bring hands into position as if holding the bow in
the left hand and the pulling string in the right.
Turn to the left exhale and extend the arms as if drawing the bow.
Inhale relax the bow and reverse the hands as if holding the bow the opposite side.
Turn to the right and repeat the process.
3 Pushing the Mountain - One arm Raising
This is a standing practice, and has similar effects to those
mentioned in the two hands push the sky form.
The arms are raised one above the head and one at around chin level.
The hands are inverted the right one facing up and the left one
facing down. Both arms are extended, in the direction the palm is
facing, one going up the other going down.
The process is repeated on the opposite side.
Breathing: Inhale bring both arms to their respective positions.
Right arm above head, palm facing up. Left arm at chin level, palm
facing down. Exhale extend both arms.
Inhale return to start position. With left arm above the head palm
facing up. The right arm at chin level, palm facing down.
Exhale extend both arms. Inhale bring both arms to sides.
Exhale relax. The process is repeated on the opposite side
with the left hand starting at the top.
4 Head and body swinging
This practice is performed in he horse stance.
It stretches the legs, thighs back and generates flexibility of the
upper and lower spine.
The hands are placed on the knees or upper thighs.
Torso is bent forward. Going clockwise turn the torso through
a full circle.
Then repeat the motion in a counter clockwise direction.
Breathing: Inhale assume horse stance.
Exhale lower head and torso between knees.
Exhale swing a full circle to the right.
Inhale lower head and torso between knees.
Exhale swing a full circle to the left. Repeat the process.
5 Black Tiger Straightens Back
This is a standing practice, and has similar effects to those
mentioned in the head and body swinging form.
The hand are clasped in front of the body and the head and torso
are bent forward to the knees.
Uncoiling the spine. The head and torso are pulled up at the same
time the hands rise above the head still clasped together and
The head and torso and extended backwards with the head looking
to the sky.
Breathing: Inhale bring hands together at waist level.
Clasp fingers palms facing up.
Exhale bend head and torso towards knees.
Inhale Uncoil spine bring head and torso up and extend arms
above head. Palms facing up
Exhale bend head and torso backwards.
Inhale come back to straight standing posture, arms at sides.
This practice is performed in he horse stance. It stretches the legs,
thighs and lower back. It is simply a series of strikes aimed to the
front and sides.
Assume horse stance
Breathing: Inhale, bring arms and clenched fists to sides.
Exhale punch right fist to front Inhale bring right fist back.
Exhale punch left fist to front. Inhale bring left fist back
Exhale punch right fist to side in an upward strike. Inhale bring right fist back
Exhale punch left fist to side in an upward strike. Inhale bring left fist back.
The entire process is then reversed starting with the left fist
7 Leopard reveals claws
This is a standing practice, which requires an element of coordination and balance.
The movements extend both arms and legs in stretching motions.
Standing in a relaxed posture
Breathing: Inhale bring right arm up.
Bent at the elbow with fist above head.
Exhale Lower right arm and bring both the left arm and left
foot up at same time.
Try to hold left leg up for balance of the exhalation.
If unable to do simply lower it to the floor.
But keep left arm up.
Inhale Bring left arm down and bring right arm and foot up.
Try to hold right leg up for the balance of the inhalation.
If unable to do simply lower it to the floor.
But keep right arm up. Exhale lower right arm.
Repeat the process starting with the left side.
8 Tiger stretches back
This starts in a standing position, but the practice requires a wide
Often referred to as the dragon stance in traditional martial arts
It stretches the spine in a unique way and promotes flexibility
and suppleness to the back and torso.
From the standing posture, extend the left leg back turn the
head and torso to the face the right.
Left leg is kept straight whilst the right knee is bent at a
45 degree angle with the right foot directly under the knee.
Breathing: Inhale bring arms up into a guard position.
Right arm forward left arm behind.
Exhale bring arms up fists clenched to shoulder level and t
wist to the left bringing left elbow to left knee.
Inhale return to starting position
Exhale reverse stance to face to the left and repeat process.
This is a very strong stretch and requires an element of care
in the practice.
9 Dragon spies prey
This practice is performed in he horse stance. It promotes flexibility of
the neck shoulder and back. It consists of a series of arm movements.
Assume horse stance
Breathing: Inhale bring both arms out sideways elbows bent at 45 degrees.
Hands in a fist, arms facing down,
Exhale bring both arms across each other moving to the centre of the
body and outwards. Going over the head and coming back to the
Arms facing up.
Inhale rotate arms forward till arms are facing down back in the
starting position, repeat the process from that point.
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